Sunday, July 10, 2005

practice makes perfect

A recently-single girlfriend and I were having a discussion on love and sex, as you inevitably will do. She mentioned that having had sex on a somewhat regular basis while dating her ex, she now felt her libido had been ‘activated’. Despite not really being interested in reentering the dating-market she has been feeling extremely sexually frustrated in a way that she had never felt when still a virgin. That made sense to me, it must be easier to miss something you’ve developed a taste for, like cocaine or brownies.

I made an off-handed joke that in our culture if you didn’t want to cook you could order-in fast-food and that if she wanted no-string-attached sex, I was quite certain she could find that too. She thought I meant a male-prostitute to which she replied: “I’d rather have sex with a guy I met at a bar than pay for it”. I found that rather interesting, because frankly I think I’d prefer the opposite. I’ve never paid for sex, and I probably would never [I wont say ‘never’ having developed a taste for alcohol and weed after having claimed to be “straight-edge” in grade nine] but the idea of paying for it seems entirely more favorable to sex with a stranger.

I would like to preface my reasoning by saying that in no way do I mean to degrade sex-workers. While I wouldn’t want anyone I love to be involved in this industry, I definitely respect a person’s right to do what they want with their bodies, so long as it is their choice. Here is my reasoning:

* Automatically there is no-string-attached, because it’s a business deal. I feel like there is less chance of hurt-feelings or one person wanting something the other person doesn’t.
* You don’t have to worry about the person not being into you. I mean I imagine prostitutes do turn people down but probably not on the basis of “you’re not my type”.
* I would imagine sex-with-a-stranger would be quite awkward and mismatched having had no experience with the person. Practice makes perfect and all that jazz. A sex-professional would probably know what they were doing.
* Finally the issue of safety. Maybe I’m deluded, but I feel like a stranger who invites you to come over to their place to have sex is more likely to hack you into pieces and keep your brain in the freezer for a midnight snack than is someone making a living off it.

I really hope my parents never ever read this.


Blogger Evil Petting Zoo said...

This subject came up in the car while Game Nerd and I were on our way back to work on Friday. We took the long way back to work because we were in no rush to sit in a cubicle. We went through a 'seedy' part of town and I see this pretty hot woman just kind of standing in the light drizzy rain. I asked Game Nerd if he thought that was a hooker. He said no. She was waiting for the bus. I said yes because she was no where near the bus stop. Sure enough as the light turned green a car pulled up in the parking lot she was in. She did the ritual bend over to meet the john move. yup, she's a working girl.

would i ever do it? i never have but i suppose it's possible.

2:06 PM  
Anonymous F Vo's mom said...

I'm very disappointed.

9:57 PM  
Blogger yournamehere said...

That wasn't your mom, it was me. Just yankin' your chain.

Have a pleasant evening.

9:59 PM  
Blogger Jim said...

I just think it's funny that she automatically thought you were suggesting she get a prostie. The first thing I would have thought of would be having sex with someone you meet in a bar with a common understanding that there are no strings attached.

I'm pretty sure most male prostitutes are gay too, so not sure if it would be ideal for a girl. 4 out of the last 5 ones I've encountered have been gay. What the???

12:40 AM  
Anonymous dryvrgrl said...

I drive past Tranny-track frequently... I always wonder about that....?
I also wonder if pros have a money back gaurantee...?

I've known a few prostitutes, and a few escorts... I'd say if you're ever thinking of it for real... go with the escort, they usually bath more often and I think are de-louced regularly.

One other safety issue Flesh... Pros will not touch you unless the weiner is wrapped, Bar-lays might... which is real scarey!!! Not to mention...
-Pros won't try to kiss ya and give you any cooties via mouth... Bar-lay might.
-And Pros won't tell your mom or your sister or dad or priest what you did with them, Bar-lays might.
-Pros won't pass out in your bed, Bar-lays might.
-Pros woon't freak out on you next weekend if you "forget" to call them, Bar-lays might.

2:19 AM  
Blogger No one asked us said...

Hmmm I don't know about this one. I find it somewhat difficult to have sex without some sort of emotional connectionl, albeit it can just be over msn or whatever. I worry more about the financial transaction side and the fact that the sex means nothing to one person but could mean a lot to another. And well just because the prostitute is experienced does not mean that they are really there. They are doing it for the money not for the sexual satisfaction. Might as well get married if all you want is someone to just hump you every once and a while.
What makes good sex good is the passion and knowing the person and building intimacy.

1:45 PM  
Blogger Rob Danger said...

Dearest EPZ,
"working girl" always makes me think of Melanie Griffth in that movie. That is all.
Dearest Mommy,
besides thinking of issues related to prostitution, I'm also a ghey. Enjoy.
Dearest YNH,
How do you KNOW it wasn't my mom? Hmm?
Dearest Jim,
I'm sure you're right, most male prostitutes probably are homosexuals, because I'd imagine there is more of a market for them. But I'm also fairly certain there must be straight male prostitutes. How do you encounter so many prostitutes? Just wondering.
Dearest Dryvy,
I hadn't thought of the condom thing, but sexcellent point!
Dearest No One,
I'm not considering getting a prostitute, I was merely reflecting on why I would if that was something I was interested in... My point about business-transaction was in reference to the fact that if you want JUST sex, then someone else who is there purely for the sex and not with potential hopes for a relationship is favourable. But then again, how the hell would I know.

2:49 PM  
Blogger Brookelina said...

If I had a choice between sex with a stranger and sex with a male prostitute, it would all come down to the hotness factor. Call me shallow, but then again, so is the topic.

2:32 PM  
Blogger Rob Danger said...

Dearest Brooke,
it is so not shallow! Just a debate on sex-work.
I think I'd rather pay a hot person than have some hot person have pity-sex with me or something. At least its all on the up and up. Ya feels?

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